Be Careful With Male Friends

As a single woman especially a seminarian-one needs to be careful with male friends. People have this fabulous tendency to think that if you have a male friend who you love-that they are obviously your "special friend." Now I find this to be absolutely hilarious and I think my male friend who is more closer to a brother than anything remotely close to a boyfriend or "special friend," also thinks it is just as hilarious. When I talk about him-which is only natural since he is a fairly big part of my life-people just naturally assume we are dating or one of us wants to date. When my friends then hear me talk about him they immediately assume that because I have a very close friendship with a guy than there has to be some other feelings involved. WRONG! I just want to state for the record we are friends-unrelated siblings. Saying that I should date my friend, we will call him Indian Brother for now, is like telling me I should date my younger brother-it just doesn't work.
Now I am sure this is a common thing for most women and men-as it is often seen as impossible for men and women to be "just friends." I don't know though as it seems like in seminary it has become a running joke that the single women are all here to get our degrees but to also find a husband.
One friend even got asked by her consistory if she was going to seminary to instead of getting her MDiv degree to get her MRS degree. It seems a bit ridiculous that was the response to a single woman would go to seminary just to find a husband. To anyone out there that is thinking that this might be a worthy approach in the "husband hunt" let me clear this up for you and give it to you straight-you probably won't find anyone at seminary and it is a lot of work just to find a husband! Plus if God has not called you to it then you are probably not destined to take this path.
Just some thoughts for today!

Preacher-in-progress on the Prowl-Does that sound dirty

So I haven't written in about two years and I feel like I should update you on what is going on in my life. I have officially left Bahrain and am now in seminary-about to finish my first year. I just thought I would write and tell you that contrary to popular belief seminary is NOT the place to find a husband or pick up men-if I want to continue to be scandalous on this post. All the men here are either married, engaged, close to being engaged, or just bit special in their own way that really doesn't fit with my bit of special.

Thus, to those of you who thought I would find a husband in Bahrain-HA! I fooled you I didn't and for those of you who were sooo sure that I would then HAVE to find one in Seminary-because all good Christian boys are at seminary-HA! Not so again! Plus when we get to seminary we are shown a lovely video that tells us that we are not able to date anyone in our congregation-so there is another road block in my meeting and settling down with husband! It was joked earlier on with a friend/roommate/sanity stabilizer/shrink/just about anything I need person that we should look at our churches and look for the single guys for each other and that way break that not dating in the congregation. However at her church the only single people left would be okay if you want to go out with grandpa. Then there is my church which is huge where I work with the youth-and we are not cougars or interested in break the law and moral guidelines.

Another thing working against us is the fact that the only way to meet men is at bars-yeah that story about the preacher, the rabbi, and priest-does not work for our congregations-bad image I think. Plus what kind of men are we going to find there? Not the kind that would be interested in church and a long term relationship-might be a good idea for evaguzlisim but not really for finding a husband.

Anyway this blog will now be dedicated for the telling of what it is like to be a single female in the seminary world. It will be heart breaking and deliciously hilarious! I hope if anyone reads this they find it funny anyway-if there ever comes anyone to read this humble-but fabulous blog!